Real Friends Frontman Knows What’s Up; Is Damn Sick Of Misogyny
It should really go without saying (and by that we mean, why the fuck is it that we need to keep saying this!?), but, like… Women kinda deserve your respect in the mosh pit. Everyone does. Music isn’t your scene to grab some unsolicited ass, hurt a smaller person because you can get away with it, or make anyone in your immediate vicinity feel uncomfortable for any reason, ever.
Unfortunately, though, misogyny is a very real issue in the music industry – something we’re fucking sick of, we’re sure you’re fucking sick of, and Real Friends frontman Dan Lambton is definitely fucking sick of. Speaking to Alternative Press for their Warped Tour special, Lambton discussed the importance of having every punter feeling valued and equal.
“The thing is, all that shit never really applied to me,” he says. “I’m a dude. So in turn, I never had to deal with misogyny. I [have] to deal with none of the stuff that women have to deal with now, like worrying about people in bands preying on them. Trying to crowd surf and getting groped. Or just the fact that their presence, to some people, undermines the authenticity of the music.
“I think that’s fucking stupid. Having to refer to somebody that cares about music so much as a ‘fangirl,’ putting that in a negative light with that stigma. I want everybody to feel like they’re worth something when they go to Warped Tour, like I was able to.”
Alas, the state of the scene will hardly change if all we do is sit around and yell about it from behind keyboards. Action is paramount, and Lambton touched on that with what he considers to be a couple of solutions for intolerable pit behaviour:
“Speaking out about in onstage is definitely the first step,” he continues. “But words don’t necessarily carry themselves as well as actions do,” he says. “I want to do a zine where we highlight different groups of people at Warped Tour, how these negative things affect their mental stability and health and showing how they truly impact people. Hopefully, people will be able to see just how far their words and their actions go.”
Real Friends released their sophomore album, The Home Inside My Head, back in May.